Sometimes I wonder if the people I think are my friends are actually my friends or if I'm just a convenient back up when there is no one better around.
People say they are your friend, but are they really? Do they know what it means to be a friend or are they confused with terminology and you are actually just aquaintances or associates or just plain old someone whose name they know.
Of course there are many types of friendship too... like work friends, bar friends, sex friends, neighbour friends, childhood friends, regular friends, best friends and true friends.
Aquaintance/Associate - You know their name, but rarely their spouse/children/pets names. It can be hard to find something to talk about and you get that akward trapped feeling when you are one on one with them. You know some things about them, but don't go deeper than the everyday normal topics - Heaven help you if you start talking about something that they have strong oposing feelings about! You don't often let your true self show to these people as there is no level of trust formed. You simply don't know these people well enough. These people can become Work Friends if you both work on the relationship, but if it's one sided and you're doing all the work... RUN!
Work Friends - these are the people you take breaks with, eat lunch with and you talk about general things, sometimes going more personal, but you don't associate very often (if at all) outside of work. Sometimes Work Friends can turn into one of the other types of friends, but if you're not careful it can affect your Work Friend relactionship.
Bar Friends - these are the people that you go out to the bar/club and drink together. You talk about flings and men/women and who's hot or not. You don't need to get very personal because you are in a loud busy place and there are many outside stimulants. Rarely can Bar Friends turn into another type of friend - exception would be Sex Friend.
Sex Friends - these are very rare and extremely difficult relationships to maintain. Sex complicates everything afterall. Sex Friends are exactly what they sound like... two people who get together for mutual sexual release with nothing else on the table. Sex Friends or Friends with Benefits often find that one partner eventually wants more from the relationship than just sex. Too often this sours the relationship and it ends. Extremely rare is the Sex Friend who turns into a boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife.
Neighbour Friends - these are the people who live in your neighbourhood. Most often you wave, maybe say a verbal hello, occasionally offer to mow their lawn or take care of a pet. Gone are the days (in most neighbourhoods) where a new family was greeted by their neighbours with muffin baskets, plates of cookies or a casserole. Now we are too afraid that the neighbour we befriend will turn out to be a sexual predator, serial killer or just a plain old bad person so we end up leaving it at a casual head nod or wave not bothering to learn names or exchange phone numbers. Neighbours can be great friends if you want them to be but you have to be open to the risk that you might not like what you find out and that you'll be stuck living next to them until one of you moves. Lucky few of these will turn out to become real friends.
Childhood Friends - these are the kids you grew up with, and over time some have lost contact or grown apart but a select few will remain friends for a lifetime. Sometimes it is hard to break a friendship that you no longer really want because "I've known so-and-so since I was two" so gradually you stop speaking, stop responding to pokes on Facebook until the memory of the friendship fades for one or both of you. There are some Childhood Friends that do last forever, but they are rare and take a lot of work on both sides to maintain.
Regular Friends - these friends will come and go, some have started as Work Friends or Aquaintances, some will progress to Best Friends, and maybe if you're truly lucky into a True Friend. You've gotten to know each other, you like what you've seen and heard so far. It'll take work on both sides to move this beyond regular friendship, but it will be worth it. You may find that they are only there for you for some events and not all - this is ok, it just means they haven't progressed beyond Regular Friends.
Best Friends - I was told once that I couldn't have more than one Best Friend... well that is a load of crap! Best Friends have seen you through more situations than even you can remember. They are the first to hear good news and the first person you cry to about the bad news. They remember things about you that are special, they want to hear about your day/week/month, they will help you through the good times and bad. They are there for you and you for them.
True Friends - the cream of the crop and a very special breed. True Friends can go months/years without seeing each other and then when they meet up again it's like no time has passed at all. True Friends can sit side-by-side not speaking and be comfortable and content. It's like they have telepathy, they finish each others thoughts and words. They always know what to say. They don't judge you. They can make fun of each other without worry that they will go to far - they will always forgive each other.
All in all, you can never have too many friends, but the next time you are with a group of your friends try and put them in one of these categories... I think you'll be surprised by where they fit.
7.4.11
6.4.11
1 year, 9 months and three days
I simply cannot fathom that it has been 1 year, 9 months and three days since my last post on this blog. Sometimes it's hard to remind yourself to take the time to write it all down, you keep thinking to yourself "I'm too busy for this" or "no one reads my blog anyway" or "I shouldn't write that, what would people think?".
I came to a realization that this blog isn't just a way to get my fun stories and good experiences out in the real world to be read, enjoyed and critisized. I should be using it to get out the things that are living in my brain, heart and soul - whether or not people will enjoy what I write about or not.
So... what does that mean?
It means that I'm going to start writing things in my blog again, but this time I'm going to write everything instead of glossing over the pointy parts.
I welcome you to your choice - to read or not to read, to comment or not to comment, to pass it on or keep it to yourself.
Cheers and welcome to my 'New' blog!
I came to a realization that this blog isn't just a way to get my fun stories and good experiences out in the real world to be read, enjoyed and critisized. I should be using it to get out the things that are living in my brain, heart and soul - whether or not people will enjoy what I write about or not.
So... what does that mean?
It means that I'm going to start writing things in my blog again, but this time I'm going to write everything instead of glossing over the pointy parts.
I welcome you to your choice - to read or not to read, to comment or not to comment, to pass it on or keep it to yourself.
Cheers and welcome to my 'New' blog!
3.7.09
Day four... getting browner
I had a much better sleep last night thanks to a lovely sleeping mask Chris found me at the mall here in Vernon. The sun rises right into my window at a shocking 4 in the morning, so the last sleep I had was not the best... but now I am rested and loving it!!
Had a great day today!! Had breakfast with the in-laws, then changed into my swim gear and joined Papu (father-in-law) by the pool. It was already really REALLY hot at 10 in the morning, so I got into the pool and onto my floaty... well that was the plan in my brain, but it didn't quite work out like that... seems the floaty had a mind of its own and just as I was about to sit on it... it floated just out of reach... I, of course, did not realize this because I was not facing the floaty... so I got dunked really quickly into the very cold pool water... much to the amusement of EVERYONE around me... I did end up getting onto the floaty but it took a couple tries... And then of course I fell off when I was trying to adjust my position... I am so amusing to my in-laws!!! LOL!!
anyhoo... I am definitely getting more tanned... something that I didn't think would happen... usually I just burn... and my legs don't tan at all. Well not this time... well at least my top half anyway!! I'm going to work on getting some colour, hopefully not bright red, on to my legs tomorrow.
Went to the Farmer's Market today - it was kinda pathetic, and it couldn't hold a candle to the one back home... in fact if I could turn back time I would have gone to a fruit stand instead since that's all that was worthwhile to buy at this market. I did pick up cherries, strawberries and raspberries... That'll be a nice treat over the next couple days... It'll go well with the Welsh Cakes that Chris' Great Aunt Mary gave us last night at BP's.
Speaking of last night at BP's... I got a huge surprise as all of the waitstaff stood behind me to sing me happy birthday... my face got so red... but I was very grateful that I had picked a chair facing the wall so not everyone could see my beet red blush!! It was very thoughtful of John and Norma to remember me - especially as I don't think they'll be coming to my birthday bash in 14 days... It was really nice to see great aunt Mary and Jackie... wish we lived closer to our families some days!!
Well back to today... after the pitiful market, we went off to the pitiful Wal-Mart... didn't find much there, but we picked up some more sunscreen and a pair of sunglasses for me (for the pool) and I picked up my all time favorite movie (Pride and Prejudice - the one with Colin {yum-yum} Firth in it)... Chris wanted to stop by EB Games in the mall too, so i hung out in the car for awhile soaking up the sun... but my lemonade ran out so I wandered into the mall to catch up with Chris, who after almost 45 minutes was still in the tiny EB games store... We went to Orange Julius and got a very VERY sweet raspberry lemonade... I couldn't handle the sweetness of it so I gave mine to Chris....
Got back to the hotel and changed into swim gear - I had the idea that I would suntan for awhile, but it was too hot and I just felt like I was an ant under a magnifying glass... this place does have awesome grass to lay on... so cool and spongy!!!
Well that's about all that happened today... Ya'll stay tuned for tomorrow's adventures!!!
Had a great day today!! Had breakfast with the in-laws, then changed into my swim gear and joined Papu (father-in-law) by the pool. It was already really REALLY hot at 10 in the morning, so I got into the pool and onto my floaty... well that was the plan in my brain, but it didn't quite work out like that... seems the floaty had a mind of its own and just as I was about to sit on it... it floated just out of reach... I, of course, did not realize this because I was not facing the floaty... so I got dunked really quickly into the very cold pool water... much to the amusement of EVERYONE around me... I did end up getting onto the floaty but it took a couple tries... And then of course I fell off when I was trying to adjust my position... I am so amusing to my in-laws!!! LOL!!
anyhoo... I am definitely getting more tanned... something that I didn't think would happen... usually I just burn... and my legs don't tan at all. Well not this time... well at least my top half anyway!! I'm going to work on getting some colour, hopefully not bright red, on to my legs tomorrow.
Went to the Farmer's Market today - it was kinda pathetic, and it couldn't hold a candle to the one back home... in fact if I could turn back time I would have gone to a fruit stand instead since that's all that was worthwhile to buy at this market. I did pick up cherries, strawberries and raspberries... That'll be a nice treat over the next couple days... It'll go well with the Welsh Cakes that Chris' Great Aunt Mary gave us last night at BP's.
Speaking of last night at BP's... I got a huge surprise as all of the waitstaff stood behind me to sing me happy birthday... my face got so red... but I was very grateful that I had picked a chair facing the wall so not everyone could see my beet red blush!! It was very thoughtful of John and Norma to remember me - especially as I don't think they'll be coming to my birthday bash in 14 days... It was really nice to see great aunt Mary and Jackie... wish we lived closer to our families some days!!
Well back to today... after the pitiful market, we went off to the pitiful Wal-Mart... didn't find much there, but we picked up some more sunscreen and a pair of sunglasses for me (for the pool) and I picked up my all time favorite movie (Pride and Prejudice - the one with Colin {yum-yum} Firth in it)... Chris wanted to stop by EB Games in the mall too, so i hung out in the car for awhile soaking up the sun... but my lemonade ran out so I wandered into the mall to catch up with Chris, who after almost 45 minutes was still in the tiny EB games store... We went to Orange Julius and got a very VERY sweet raspberry lemonade... I couldn't handle the sweetness of it so I gave mine to Chris....
Got back to the hotel and changed into swim gear - I had the idea that I would suntan for awhile, but it was too hot and I just felt like I was an ant under a magnifying glass... this place does have awesome grass to lay on... so cool and spongy!!!
Well that's about all that happened today... Ya'll stay tuned for tomorrow's adventures!!!
2.7.09
Day one, two and three of my summer vacation
Ok, Ok, so I know I haven't written lately and I'm not gonna tell you it was because I was sooooo busy... in truth I think I've just been lazy!! Afterall... if I have time to play on the PS3 or watch movies and television, i could spare a minute or two for my blog... So sorry to all of my blog readers for not having anything new to read for over 2 months...
I figured that I could write about my vacation... but the wireless internet at some of these hotels is slower than a snail covered in molasses...
Our first 'motel' was pretty sketchy... but that's what you get for stopping at the first one you see... we got the last room in the place - luckily it was on the ground floor so it was easy to lug our ginormous suitcase and necessities into it... we walked up to our room and in front of it was a HUGE pile of empty boxes (TV boxes to be accurate)... well huh I thought... guess they're doing some remodelling or something... oooooh yeah... I'm thinking that the inside is gonna be great.... Boy was I wrong... this motel was in a word... FLEABAG!! lol... I checked out the beds... there were 4 by the way (2 Queen, 1 Double and 1 twin)... the sheets looked new and clean but the comforter was out of the 70's or 80's... the TV was new... lol... but the cable was so grainy it wasn't worth trying to watch anything!! Plus it only got like 7 channels... I felt like I was in a time warp or something... *snigger*... now that song from Rocky Horror is playing over and over in my head!!! Anyway, we went to bed... the place had nice pillows and those awesome blackout drapes....
Woke up the next morning and showered.... OH MY GOODNESS... there was no end to the hot water!! which is very good since I'm used to competing with my darling hubby for our limited supply at our house!! It felt so great that I decided to shave my legs... ok that might have been a bit too much info for some of you, but let me tell you this... its is so much better doing this with really REALLY warm water than to try and do it with luke-warm so that you have enough Hot water for two people to shower... LOL...
We got on the road in a hurry, and I was very grateful I had packed the cooler with sandwiches and goodies for the road, because that little town did NOT have a Tim Horton's...lol!!
We stopped about an hour out of Vernon, at a place called Paul Lake and had a picnic lunch and then sat on the bank with our feet in the water... I so miss being so close to the water... The sound, the smell, its all so familiar and brings me back to my childhood! It was a very VERY happy childhood. (Thanks largely to my incredible mom and my wonderful step-dad)...
We reluctantly left the lake and travelled into Vernon to go to the Tiki Village motel... I love this place - it's the second time we've been here and it's just awesome!!! Spent the afternoon/evening with my in'laws and then went into the room to watch some tv and go to bed.
Well that brings us up to today!! Its only about 4 here now, and already today we've been to the Wal-Mart and the Mall (had to do a little shopping - afterall I was already out of reading material...)... And now I'm headed off to the pool to do a little swimming and then we're going to meet up with my hubby's Great aunty...
I'll write again tomorrow... hope y'all come back to read!!
I figured that I could write about my vacation... but the wireless internet at some of these hotels is slower than a snail covered in molasses...
Our first 'motel' was pretty sketchy... but that's what you get for stopping at the first one you see... we got the last room in the place - luckily it was on the ground floor so it was easy to lug our ginormous suitcase and necessities into it... we walked up to our room and in front of it was a HUGE pile of empty boxes (TV boxes to be accurate)... well huh I thought... guess they're doing some remodelling or something... oooooh yeah... I'm thinking that the inside is gonna be great.... Boy was I wrong... this motel was in a word... FLEABAG!! lol... I checked out the beds... there were 4 by the way (2 Queen, 1 Double and 1 twin)... the sheets looked new and clean but the comforter was out of the 70's or 80's... the TV was new... lol... but the cable was so grainy it wasn't worth trying to watch anything!! Plus it only got like 7 channels... I felt like I was in a time warp or something... *snigger*... now that song from Rocky Horror is playing over and over in my head!!! Anyway, we went to bed... the place had nice pillows and those awesome blackout drapes....
Woke up the next morning and showered.... OH MY GOODNESS... there was no end to the hot water!! which is very good since I'm used to competing with my darling hubby for our limited supply at our house!! It felt so great that I decided to shave my legs... ok that might have been a bit too much info for some of you, but let me tell you this... its is so much better doing this with really REALLY warm water than to try and do it with luke-warm so that you have enough Hot water for two people to shower... LOL...
We got on the road in a hurry, and I was very grateful I had packed the cooler with sandwiches and goodies for the road, because that little town did NOT have a Tim Horton's...lol!!
We stopped about an hour out of Vernon, at a place called Paul Lake and had a picnic lunch and then sat on the bank with our feet in the water... I so miss being so close to the water... The sound, the smell, its all so familiar and brings me back to my childhood! It was a very VERY happy childhood. (Thanks largely to my incredible mom and my wonderful step-dad)...
We reluctantly left the lake and travelled into Vernon to go to the Tiki Village motel... I love this place - it's the second time we've been here and it's just awesome!!! Spent the afternoon/evening with my in'laws and then went into the room to watch some tv and go to bed.
Well that brings us up to today!! Its only about 4 here now, and already today we've been to the Wal-Mart and the Mall (had to do a little shopping - afterall I was already out of reading material...)... And now I'm headed off to the pool to do a little swimming and then we're going to meet up with my hubby's Great aunty...
I'll write again tomorrow... hope y'all come back to read!!
9.4.09
its getting worse
This is so utterly... Unfair... untimely... and just so very wrong.
I thought that when you get medication that it is supposed to make you feel better... not worse! This darn antibiotic is so kicking my butt... they told me that it's side effects are nausea and diarrhea and that I should take it with breakfast and dinner... so that already causes an issue... as I DO NOT eat breakfast... I know, I know... its the MOST important meal of the day... but I firmly believe in not eating until you are hungry... but while I'm on this antibiotic I have to force myself to eat breakfast at 7:30 in the morning - which I think is so totally bogus and its making me feel worse! Oh well I guess I'll just have to 'suck it up Princess' and deal for the next 8 mornings.
So last night was rough... the Advair didn't help my breathing... I had another fever... I had the shivering problem again (although it wasn't as bad as the last time)... and Chris and I ended up staying up past midnight until I fell asleep on the couch. Poor Chris, he had work to do last night and didn't do it so he could sit with me and make me feel better... Sometimes I don't feel like I deserve him... he's such a good man.
I think the lack of sleep is starting to run me down too... thinking back... I haven't had a good night's sleep in a week... even with the awesomeness of NyQuil...
On the bright side... it is a long weekend, so I'll be able to sleep and nap and just relax. AND a SUPER BONUS... my mom is coming up... and no one makes you feel better like your mom right??
I thought that when you get medication that it is supposed to make you feel better... not worse! This darn antibiotic is so kicking my butt... they told me that it's side effects are nausea and diarrhea and that I should take it with breakfast and dinner... so that already causes an issue... as I DO NOT eat breakfast... I know, I know... its the MOST important meal of the day... but I firmly believe in not eating until you are hungry... but while I'm on this antibiotic I have to force myself to eat breakfast at 7:30 in the morning - which I think is so totally bogus and its making me feel worse! Oh well I guess I'll just have to 'suck it up Princess' and deal for the next 8 mornings.
So last night was rough... the Advair didn't help my breathing... I had another fever... I had the shivering problem again (although it wasn't as bad as the last time)... and Chris and I ended up staying up past midnight until I fell asleep on the couch. Poor Chris, he had work to do last night and didn't do it so he could sit with me and make me feel better... Sometimes I don't feel like I deserve him... he's such a good man.
I think the lack of sleep is starting to run me down too... thinking back... I haven't had a good night's sleep in a week... even with the awesomeness of NyQuil...
On the bright side... it is a long weekend, so I'll be able to sleep and nap and just relax. AND a SUPER BONUS... my mom is coming up... and no one makes you feel better like your mom right??
8.4.09
waiting
Ok, so I'm not the sort of gal that goes to see doctors... I mean you wait forever to see them for 2 minutes, most of which they spend reading your chart... But Tuesday had me sitting in a waiting room - by my own choice - waiting to see the clinic doctor.
I ended up having to wait for three hours... all the time listening to the receptionist telling people that the wait time was only going to be an hour... yeah... RIGHT! I mean seriously?? Why not tell people the truth instead of wasting their time? I guess it could have been worse I could have been waiting at the hospital for 8 hours right?
Anyhoo... I finally get to see the doctor (for about 4 minutes)... and guess what? He tells me I have bronchitis and that I'm wheezing like an asthmatic... and gives me a prescription for antibiotics and an Advair diskus...
To borrow a phrase from a good buddy of mine... 'this is so totally Weak Sauce man!!'
So thank you to my husband who gave me his cold/flu... and thanks to my own immune system for mutating it into something much worse.
I ended up having to wait for three hours... all the time listening to the receptionist telling people that the wait time was only going to be an hour... yeah... RIGHT! I mean seriously?? Why not tell people the truth instead of wasting their time? I guess it could have been worse I could have been waiting at the hospital for 8 hours right?
Anyhoo... I finally get to see the doctor (for about 4 minutes)... and guess what? He tells me I have bronchitis and that I'm wheezing like an asthmatic... and gives me a prescription for antibiotics and an Advair diskus...
To borrow a phrase from a good buddy of mine... 'this is so totally Weak Sauce man!!'
So thank you to my husband who gave me his cold/flu... and thanks to my own immune system for mutating it into something much worse.
7.4.09
Sick of being... well... sick!
6 days and counting... of being sick I mean. It started out as just a stomach bug, but now its congesting my lungs like a Japanese train car. I should've known though, after all my hubby had a wicked cold when I had my stomach bug and he ALWAYS shares with me... I wish he wouldn't!
Yesterday was so bad. I went to work and I just kept feeling more and more sick and by the end of the day I just wanted to crawl into bed and die... well not literally die... but definitely be dead to the world for the night.
I felt like I had a fever so when I got home I grabbed my thermometer... its battery was dead... so I grabbed the basal thermometer... its battery was also dead. Figures eh? I curled up on the sofa with my blanket in defeat... I just couldn't seem to make my feet warm up.
My darling hubby (who gave me this sickness btw) went out and got batteries for the thermometer and brought home yummy Chinese food... he's so sweet!
About the fever? yeah it was 101... but it went back down to normal by about 11.
Went to bed around midnight, but ended up waking up at 1, 2, 3 and 4 with coughing. Got out of bed at 2 to get more Kleenex and something to drink - I started shivering uncontrollably, but super weird thing is that I didn't feel cold, but I couldn't stop shaking. Even when I managed to get back into bed, it didn't stop. So weird...
Upside to this is that I think I feel a little better today... we'll just have to wait and see if it lasts!
Yesterday was so bad. I went to work and I just kept feeling more and more sick and by the end of the day I just wanted to crawl into bed and die... well not literally die... but definitely be dead to the world for the night.
I felt like I had a fever so when I got home I grabbed my thermometer... its battery was dead... so I grabbed the basal thermometer... its battery was also dead. Figures eh? I curled up on the sofa with my blanket in defeat... I just couldn't seem to make my feet warm up.
My darling hubby (who gave me this sickness btw) went out and got batteries for the thermometer and brought home yummy Chinese food... he's so sweet!
About the fever? yeah it was 101... but it went back down to normal by about 11.
Went to bed around midnight, but ended up waking up at 1, 2, 3 and 4 with coughing. Got out of bed at 2 to get more Kleenex and something to drink - I started shivering uncontrollably, but super weird thing is that I didn't feel cold, but I couldn't stop shaking. Even when I managed to get back into bed, it didn't stop. So weird...
Upside to this is that I think I feel a little better today... we'll just have to wait and see if it lasts!
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